When was the last time you asked others how they viewed you? We all naturally tend to think that people will see us the same way we view ourselves, but sometimes the reality can be somewhat different, and there is no better way to find out than to get feedback from others whom you associate with regularly.
The reason I am posting about this today is because last week some of the people at my workplace took part in this type of self and peer assessment, and the results were quite interesting. Some people felt they had a very strong personalities, yet the larger group didn’t agree. Other people thought they were more reserved, while the group considered them to be more reserved.
I think the majority of people came out fairly similar to how they viewed themselves, but it is the others who are either self deluded, or what I would consider “wishful thinkers” who I find the most interesting. It’s particularly interesting as these days perception of a person can be all it takes to either land or lose a good job, partner or a host of other things that involved one persons assessment of another person to see if they would be a good fit or a value proposition.
I’ve also started applying the same principal to my online business dealings. I always try to put in 100%, and I then expect that everyone else will see my work the same way that I do – top shelf, however, i’m fast learning that it isn’t what I like that matters, it’s what my customers like that’s important. The best way to discover what my customers like, or what converts the best – ask them, split test, prototype – whatever you need to do to hit the ball out of the park.
I’m also getting a lot of value out of learning to handle honest criticism, and surrounding myself with people who will give me that cold hard truth, which is sometimes very difficult to swallow. In the end, I know it’s for the best, and it’s exactly the type of feedback that I need if i’m ever going to hit my goals.
How do you handle feedback from others, do you find it confronting, or do you welcome it?