I had a fairly interesting conversation with someone at work the other day around the living arrangements between him and his new girlfriend. I couldn’t really think of a win/win situation and so I thought I would ask you guys if you had any ideas.
The situation is like this – The guy I was talking to is divorced with 2 kids young kids. His new partner is also divorced, but she has older kids (high school age I believe). They have been dating for a few years now and I just happened to make a comment that she might be wanting to take the living arrangements to the next level. As it turns out, I was right, she does. Unfortunately this is where things get a little bit interesting / difficult.
The guy at work owns his own house and lives fairly close to work. His girlfriend lives on a different side of town (closer to her own job) and doesn’t own her house, but instead lives in a house that her parents own and she lives there rent free. Neither house is big enough to accommodate both families when they are combined, so there are only a couple of options.
- Don’t move in together until the kids move on
- Buy a new house together that is large enough to fit the 6 of them
- Rent a house together that is large enough to fit the 6 of them
The main problems that I see with option 2 is that the guy I know will likely have to sell his house so they can buy a new one, which means he is far more invested in the new place than his partner. The other issue I see with both option 2 and 3 is that they will need to find a place that suits both of them, and it is almost guaranteed that one of them will have to move further away from their workplace, which will equate to more travel time.
What do you guys think? Is there an easy answer here? What would you do if you where in this situation?